Your questions, answered plainly
Here are some questions that get asked a lot. (And a few you probably haven’t thought of yet.)
How long does a ceremony usually last?
Most ceremonies run between 20 and 40 minutes. Long enough to say everything that matters; short enough to keep the room with you (kids and pets included).
Do you travel?
Yes. Travel within 50 miles of Bourne, Lincolnshire is included; beyond that there’s a mileage supplement at 45p/mile. I’ll be clear about costs upfront, so there are no surprises. And if you’re even further afield, I’ve done destination ceremonies too: same guidance applies with travel and accommodation chargeable.
What’s the difference between a celebrant and a registrar?
A registrar delivers a legal ceremony with a fixed structure and required wording. A celebrant starts with you: no fixed script, no required wording, no constraints on what your ceremony can look, sound or feel like. The trade-off (in England and Wales) is the registry office appointment. Most couples think that’s a very fair trade.
Will the ceremony feel like us?
That is the entire point. Every ceremony begins with listening and is written from scratch.
What happens if you’re ill on the day?
I have a network of trusted celebrants who can step in if the absolute worst happens. It’s never happened — but it’s planned for. Your ceremony will be delivered.
Can we have pets or children involved?
Pets: yes and I love it. Children: yes — I'm experienced in writing ceremonies that hold them gently without the whole thing unravelling. Both: very brave, entirely possible and sure to be a highlight!
Can my own friend or family member deliver the ceremony?
Yes that’s The Ghostwriter service. I design and write the whole ceremony and coach your chosen person to deliver it with confidence, so they’re fully prepped rather than quietly terrified.
Do you help with speeches?
Yes that’s the Speech Support service, for the people standing up. I support with creatiing the speech content and/or delivery coaching, sharing some of my tips + tricks from my theatre days and keynote coaching.
How far in advance should I book?
As soon as you know your date, particularly for summer Saturdays, which go quickly. That said, I’ve had couples get in touch with six weeks to go and made it work. If your date is close, it’s always worth asking.
Can we be involved in writing the ceremony?
Absolutely! Most couples want to be, to some degree. Some want to write their own vows, some to suggest readings, some to co-author the whole thing. I’ll follow your lead and give you my honest experience and thoughts.